Shopping Cart
Your Cart is Empty
Quantity:
Subtotal
Taxes
Shipping
Total
There was an error with PayPalClick here to try again
CelebrateThank you for your business!You should be receiving an order confirmation from Paypal shortly.Exit Shopping Cart

Hypnotherapy for Change

                        One step at a time.....

Blog

New Years Resolutions - have you made one?

04 January 2021

We do it every year - start with great intentions for the following year - make a “promise” to ourselves - and then feel deflated by breaking it.

Have you broken yours yet?

Whether you have, or you haven’t.......try this very simple and effective technique.


Close your eyes and let yourself relax.

See yourself in your imagination on 31st December 2021 having accomplished your goal, whatever it may be (eg healthier, happier, non-smoker, slimmer etc)

Now “feel” how it really feels......as though it’s happening right now in this very moment!


What does having achieved your goal give you in just ONE word?


Is it........

Happiness?

Peace?

Confidence?

Contentment?

Excitement?

Security?


Find just ONE word that describes what it has given you ..........and now “that” word is your word for the year!


Take a couple of deep breathes in and out.

Say your word out loud.

Imagine having achieving that word.

How does it feel?


Now write your word down and put it somewhere you go to regularly (eg cupboard door, light switch, bedside cabinet etc)


Even though you may forget to consciously look at it, be assured your subconscious will notice it every time.

This word will start to give you a very clear direction and you will begin to make decisions that will lead to you achieving your goal.


My word for the year to follow is “contentment”.........what’s yours? 

The Very Best Present!

24 December 2020

This Christmas is different for us all in so many ways. However, the one thing that the events of this year has hopefully taught us all is that love, people and connection are the most important things - not materialistic stuff!


More so then ever we need to look after ourselves - both our physical and mental health. The very best present you could have this Christmas is to “be present”.


Living in the present moment means not ruminating or worrying about what has happened in the past (leading to depression) .........and not fearing what may happen in the future (anxiety).

It means enjoying what's happening right now in the moment and living for today.


Every day is full of endless possibilities! You and only you are in control of your attitude every morning so try to smile, keep it positive and be expectant. If you do this every day, very soon you will be doing it without even realising!


Soak in as much of the day as you possibly can and fully appreciate it all – the sights, the sounds, the smells. These are in our daily lives but we often forget to take them in and truly appreciate them.


Finally, If you are holding resentment towards another human being because of past pain or hurt, make the conscious choice to forgive them and their actions and to move on. The hurt may have been their fault, but allowing it to continue to impact you is yours. Let go and choose to be present in the moment instead.


Remember Christmas Day is just one day - that’s only 24 hours!

That’s just one day out of 365 - so you can decide how you would like this one day to be.

Of course we would all love to be surrounded by our family and friends etc but this is likely not possible for many - so think about how you can make the day as enjoyable and as memorable as you possibly can and take this opportunity to use the day to be “present” and thankful.


I sincerely wish you all a very Happy Christmas and I hope that you all have a very special day.


How to Improve Relationships with the Power of Hypnosis

12 December 2020

The coronavirus outbreak is leading to big changes in the way we live our everyday lives.


Our relationships are hugely important to us just at a time when they are being placed under the most intense pressure.


Relationships are not built on the expectation that you'll be spending all day, every day with that person.


If you’re both working from home, with nowhere to go in the evenings, there’s a chance you may experience some friction.


Perhaps it’s happening already?


This is perfectly normal, particularly given the increased stress we’re all under right now.


But, as we could be in this situation for a while yet, it’s worth taking some steps to ensure we get through this period with our relationships intact.


We may even come out the other side stronger! Give these strategies a go:


1. Create the love with your differences


Write a list of the positive differences between you. This can help you begin to appreciate each other again.


2. No criticisms/No put downs


When niggles arise between you, or one is criticising the other, say something silly. Your partner will be so taken aback, it will throw them, and may even make them laugh. But, most importantly, it will break any tension.


3. Cuddle Time


Find time in the day, just for this, with no further expectation.


4. Allow the Dreams


Encourage your partner to fulfil their dreams and ask them to allow you to achieve yours, too. When you both feel free, you will both be happy.


5. Discuss Rather Than Argue


Turn irritating comments into humour – see the situation as a cartoon so that you can laugh at it.


6. Learn To Listen


Make a conscious effort to really listen to what your partner has to say


7. Love What Is Actually Real


Don’t set up your partner to fail by having expectations of them which are too high.


Hypnotherapy can be used to change thinking patterns, behaviours and outcomes. Relationship hypnosis deals with the relationship you have with your partner.


Relationship hypnosis can help you:

  • Deal with negative emotions
  • Have much improved communications with the people around you
  • Recapture those feelings of love and romance
  • Build strong relationships towards a brighter future

You too can shift the dynamics of your relationship.



Coronavirus – Coping with the with the chaos

19 November 2020

How To Manage Uncertainty in Uncertain Times


The world is currently in the grip of a global pandemic.

We are living in extremely uncertain times - and that uncertainty can be difficult to cope with.

You may feel worried right now.

You may struggle to keep anxious thoughts in check.

And you may feel unsure about the future.

But help is at hand - you CAN learn to live with uncertainty.


Facing Uncertainty is Scarier than Facing Physical Pain


In 2016, a group of London researchers explored how people react to being told they will either "definitely" or "probably" receive a painful electric shock. They discovered an intriguing paradox. Volunteers who knew they would definitely receive a painful electric shock felt calmer and were measurably less agitated than those who were told they only had a 50 percent chance of receiving the electric shock.


A new study shows that the uncertainty of something bad happening can be more stressful than the knowledge of something bad happening. Researchers recruited 45 volunteers to play a computer game in which they turned over digital rocks that might have snakes hiding underneath. Throughout the game, they had to guess whether each rock concealed a snake. When a snake appeared, they received a mild but painful electric shock on the hand. Over the course of the game they got better about predicting under which rocks they’d find snakes, but the game was designed to keep changing the odds of success to maintain ongoing uncertainty. And when we’re facing outcomes imbued with uncertainty, it’s the fact that something bad might happen that “gets” us. The volunteers’ level of uncertainty correlated to their level of stress. So, if someone felt “certain” he or she would find a snake, stress levels were significantly lower than if they felt that maybe they would find a snake. In both cases, they’d get a shock, but their stress was loaded with added uncertainty.


Archy de Berker from the UCL Institute of Neurology said: "Our experiment allows us to draw conclusions about the effect of uncertainty on stress. It turns out that it's much worse not knowing you are going to get a shock than

knowing you definitely will or won’t“.


Uncertainty Ignites our Primitive Survival Instinct

If we can’t neutralise a perceived threat, we engage in the unhelpful process called “worry”.

We grapple with whatever the problem is to find solutions to the threat, but there are none.

Does this make us feel better? No, of course it doesn’t - it makes us feel worse.

In our need for certainty, we are wired to “catastrophise” - we view or talk of a situation as worse than it actually is. This leads to worry, which in turn leads to anxiety.

The modern brain struggles to distinguish between real threat and perceived threat.


The result is that the primitive brain takes over and triggers the primitive survival instinct - fight-or-flight. It asks questions:


What is going to happen...?

What is around the corner for me...?

Should I be doing less...?

Should I be doing more...?

What if my business is threatened?

What if my livelihood is threatened...?

What if my life is threatened...?

The lack of answers can lead to:

Anger

Aggression

Frustration


What Can we do to Mitigate Uncertainty?


There are a number of things we can do to lessen the effects of uncertainty:


  • Awareness is your superpower - be aware of your feelings and emotions
  • Notice the “worry story” you are telling yourself - try to distance yourself from it
  • Focus on breathing - long slow breaths
  • Recognise the need to rise above fight-or-flight
  • Accept uncertainty - allow yourself to stop the struggle


Stand up to Anxiety with Some Mood-Boosters

  • Exercise and movement
  • Meditation, self hypnosis
  • Achievement-oriented activity
  • Something pleasant or fun


Just 15 minutes a day, focussing on yourself, will help you regain a sense of balance.


The more you practice all these strategies, the better you will become!